Being a girl in a brown society is not a piece of cake. And you would be surprised if I say that our real enemies are our own “comrades”, our “best girls” and our “my girls”. Do not fall prey to their social media tags and their sweet lubricated tongues.
Talking from personal experience, it took me some good great years to differentiate between “selfie friends”, “seasonal friends” and “real friends”. Following is a reality-based checklist to get to know who is real and who pretends to be real.
- The Sweet Talk:
Let us be honest, we all love it right? Like how we get praised everywhere and how we always become the life of every party and stay at the top of cloud nine with all the appreciations and admirations. BUT, beware, entitlement is a poison, venomous than a snake bite. All the tongues that praise you can also turn back against you in no time.
2. The Narcissist Alert:
having a friend who bosses you around is a complete No No. You want a friend with whom you can share stuff and not another Hitler to rule you right? Avoid the one who always wants to be proved right and remains forever in the bubble of self-achievement.
3 The Hijackers:
When your friend or your circle does not approve of your pretty basic and subjective choices such as clothing, eating or lifestyle habits and they try to change you for their own good social standing. Run from them and never look back.
Also, when they replace your opinion with their and do this all the time you have lost your ability to think. You need to run twice faster now.
4. The Watchdogs:
When they decide what are you going to do and how are you going to do things in your life. When you always find yourself answerable to them for everything that you do, they are just not the ones to have a good time with.
5. The Regina George kind:
Mean Girls exist in reality too! You surely do not need a friend, who enjoys looking good and confident at the expense of putting you down. Who always gets to hear compliments and you become the victim of comparisons.
And you get laughed at the “nerdy jokes” because you are socially awkward and lacking in the fashion sense. And they get embarrassed around you because you do not act sophisticated around them.
kick them out of your life and do not let them define you.
6 The emotional attack:
Even when you finally try to embrace yourself they throw their final emotional card and reminds you of their loyalty towards you. Ughh, just ignore and move on girl.
7 The wannabe psychics:
Let us get real again and a little more considerate over here. We all get depressed sometime and anxiety knocks the hell out of everyone. But if a person self-imposes depression on him or her just to attract attention or to look cool, leave them.
Or they will suck positivity out of you and they will turn you into a grim person.
Now how “Real Friends” look like
1 The Listening Ears:
They look after you and always ask you how you feel without passing any ted talk or lecture. They put themselves in your shoes and bring the best out of you. Not to mention, they prove to be good listeners because at the end of the day we all just want to be listened to
They try to empower others by siding with the right and speaking for the good and just cause. They indicate the evils inside and deliver the solutions.
they give you the courage to chase your dreams and believe in you.
this brings me to finally say that friends are either a blessing or a test. Choose wisely and live your life while you still have time.
Note: all the images are taken from Google and I do not claim them to be mine. They are just used for the purpose of this article.